{"id":227,"date":"2023-07-05T12:09:58","date_gmt":"2023-07-05T12:09:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thehealthhop.com\/5-tips-for-self-care-sunday-to-recharge-yourself\/"},"modified":"2023-07-05T12:09:59","modified_gmt":"2023-07-05T12:09:59","slug":"5-tips-for-self-care-sunday-to-recharge-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thehealthhop.com\/5-tips-for-self-care-sunday-to-recharge-yourself\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Tips for Self-Care Sunday to recharge yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"<div>\n<p>Now, before you click out of this blog thinking you do not have time to take care of yourself try this: think of how you might respond if I told you this blog was about how to help or take care of someone else in your life. You\u2019d likely get your pen and paper out and get cracking, right? But, when the focus is caring for you there is likely more hesitancy, procrastination and disinterest.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-elizabeth-s-quick-take-on-self-care-sunday\">Elizabeth\u2019s quick take on Self-Care Sunday<\/h2>\n<p>Therapist Elizabeth Cohen summarizes self-care practices as:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Guard your energy, and say \u2018no\u2019\u00a0 often<\/li>\n<li>Stop insisting on doing it all. Ask for help.<\/li>\n<li>Prioritize making your physical space peaceful<\/li>\n<li>Validate your feelings and be kind to yourself<\/li>\n<li>Gratitude!\u00a0<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>The idea of self-care is thrown around a lot. But, most of my clients look at me blankly when I mention the concept.<\/p>\n<p>Keep reading and trust me that using good emotional and physical self care techniques will save you time, money and stress when managing your divorce and help you carve out some time.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-what-is-self-care\">What is self-care?<\/h2>\n<p><strong>Let\u2019s start by defining self-care. One of my favorite mantras is \u201cself-care is self-protection.\u201d This means that engaging in behaviors that are kind and loving that require you to take care of yourself first, protects you from pain and heartbreak. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>This is just like flossing our teeth. We floss so we will have healthy teeth in the long run not for the immediate effect. Before we dive into the Sunday self care tips I want to mention a common misconception about self-care. Some of you might think that self-care is simply selfish. After all, we have been taught that focusing on ourselves and taking me time to enjoy ourselves is lavish. We live in a culture where working hard and sacrificing is valued and rest and recuperation is devalued. So, don\u2019t be surprised if you find yourself struggling to accept that self-care is worth your time.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>There is a difference between being selfish and self-care. Being selfish means you are only thinking about your needs to the detriment of others&#8217; needs around you. Self-care refers to behaviors you engage in so that you can fill up your own gas tank. By nurturing yourself in this way you can be more selfless and giving in the future. The goal here is to take care of yourself so that you can show up as the best version of you to others. It is important to note that there is emotional, physical and spiritual self care. We will discuss all types.\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-what-is-self-care-sunday\">What is Self-Care Sunday?<\/h2>\n<p>Like \u2018meatless Monday\u2019 and \u2018casual Friday,\u2019 Self-Care Sunday is an easy, positive, weekly way to remember to exercise a positive habit \u2014\u00a0in this case, taking time out to care for your own physical, mental, emotional and spiritual wellbeing.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.wealthysinglemommy.com\/things-to-do-by-yourself\/\">Try these 41 things to do by yourself for a fuller life<\/a><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-what-are-the-benefits-of-self-care-sunday\">What are the benefits of Self-Care Sunday?<\/h3>\n<p>A regular Self-Care Sunday practice will help you:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Improve your physical health<\/li>\n<li>Improve your mental health<\/li>\n<li>Improve your spiritual life\u00a0<\/li>\n<li>Improve your relationships<\/li>\n<li>Better manage your time and energy\u00a0<\/li>\n<li>Attract more positivity to your life<\/li>\n<li>Reach your goals<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-here-are-my-top-self-care-sunday-tips\">Here are my top Self-Care Sunday tips:<\/h2>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-self-care-sunday-tip-1-say-no\">SELF CARE SUNDAY TIP 1: SAY NO<\/h3>\n<p>I can still remember the chills I felt down my spine when someone told me that \u201cNo\u201d is a full sentence. It suddenly occurred to me that I did not need to over explain, apologize or undo my behavior when I told someone I could not deliver on their request. I noticed I had time and energy back.\u00a0 While you might worry that saying \u201cno\u201d is being mean, keep in mind that there are many ways to say \u201cno\u201d kindly. I often recommend you start with acknowledgement for the request, state your \u201cno\u201d and then end with an expression of gratitude for the consideration.\u00a0<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-self-care-sunday-tip-2-ask-for-help\">SELF CARE SUNDAY TIP 2: ASK FOR HELP<\/h3>\n<p>The second tool for self-care is asking for help. Allow yourself at least 15 minutes for this exercise. Write down all the things you do in a day. Write down everything you do from the moment you wake up to when your head hits your pillow. Write down all you do for your family, work, pets, household, and your <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wealthysinglemommy.com\/survive-financially-as-a-single-mom\/\">finances<\/a>. Use as many pages in your journal as you need.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img alt=\"\"\/><\/figure>\n<p>Getting all that you do out on paper helps us see how much you do and brings to light what needs attention. Now, next to each of the tasks you listed answer the following two questions:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Does this have to be done at all?<\/li>\n<li>Does this have to be done by me?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>The first question helps weed out any tasks you are doing out of habit, or routine that simply are not essential anymore. I remember <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wealthysinglemommy.com\/hire-someone-to-do-laundry\/\">washing my kids&#8217; sheets<\/a> every day for years until I realized that as they get older, they do not dirty their sheets with the same frequency they did when they were younger. This example also applies to the second question. It occurred to me that my children, 13 and 15 at that time, could wash their own sheets. I did not have to be the one completing this task.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.wealthysinglemommy.com\/hiring-a-housekeeper\/\">5 benefits of hiring a housekeeper or house cleaner<\/a><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-self-care-sunday-tip-3-create-a-soul-loving-space\">SELF CARE SUNDAY TIP 3: CREATE A SOUL LOVING SPACE\u00a0<\/h3>\n<p>The third self-care tool is to create a soul-loving space. Consider a space in your home or office that you would like to dedicate to you and your serenity. This is a place where you can land at the end of the day or when you need a moment of respite.<\/p>\n<p>Now, close your eyes and picture a space that feeds your soul. What colors do you see? What textures do you feel? What smells do you smell? What sounds do you hear? Do you want <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wealthysinglemommy.com\/best-gifts-single-moms\/\">candles<\/a>, music, blankets, pillows, incense, inspirational images or pictures? Really design a space that would bring ease simply when you are there. If you need some added inspiration feel free to look online and find images that resonate with you.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-self-care-sunday-tip-4-three-things-i-did-well-today\">SELF CARE SUNDAY TIP 4: THREE THINGS I DID WELL TODAY\u00a0<\/h3>\n<p>The fourth self-care tool is one that I teach to all my clients. Before bed every night pull out a piece of paper and write down three things you did well that day.<\/p>\n<p>When I teach this strategy most clients have the same reaction. Clients almost immediately say, \u201cI won\u2019t be able to find anything because I do not do anything great during the day.\u201d However, I then tell them the secret to this tool which is to pick really small behaviors. Really small. For example, you can write down if you said \u201cbless you\u201d after someone sneezed, held the door open for someone, said hello to the doorman in your office building, smiled at the barista in the morning or listened to a co-worker\u2019s story.<\/p>\n<p>I know these seem like small behaviors, but all the small actions you take every day make up the special person you are. When we dismiss these kind gestures, we are missing parts of us that are kind, thoughtful and generous. We need to keep an eye on to help our sense of self grow and flourish. As you know when you are going through a divorce your <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wealthysinglemommy.com\/how-to-feel-confident\/\">confidence<\/a> takes a hit, so please try this exercise at night and notice what comes into your awareness.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-self-sunday-tip-5-gratitude-list\">SELF\u00a0 SUNDAY TIP 5: GRATITUDE LIST<\/h3>\n<p>Unless you have been living under a rock you have likely heard about the power of gratitude lists. If you are like many of my clients you are curious, but not sure how to get started. Like all new behaviors and especially those to help increase self-care and self-confidence we need to start small. I ask my clients to write down 3 things they are grateful for each day.<\/p>\n<p>I have some rules about what they are allowed to write. They cannot write large conceptual ideas they are grateful for like love, family, and health. While I certainly hope you have those things and feel grateful for them, they are not helpful for this practice because they are to operationalize. However, we can say \u201cI am grateful for the spontaneous hug my 14-year-old gave me this morning. I want you to notice small moments of gratitude.<\/p>\n<p>For example, a common item on New Yorkers&#8217; gratitude lists is catching the subway before it pulls out of the station. A miraculous thing happens when you start looking for small moments of gratitude during your day, you start to notice even more! If you know you have to write down 3 things that you appreciated during the day you are going to be searching out more positive experiences in your day than negative.\u00a0<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-self-care-sunday-checklist\">Self-Care Sunday checklist<\/h3>\n<p>To get the most of your Sunday of Self-Care include your gratitude list as part of a larger checklist to address your whole self. This checklist can include:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Gratitude list <\/li>\n<li>Physical activity<\/li>\n<li>Emotional \/ mental health check-in<\/li>\n<li>Spiritual practice <\/li>\n<li>Alone time <\/li>\n<li>Nature time <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-types-of-self-care-how-to-get-me-time-every-day-and-week\">Types of self-care \u2014 How to get \u2018me time&#8217; every day and week<\/h2>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-emotional-self-care-tips\">Emotional self-care tips<\/h3>\n<p>Emotional self-care is the act of validating and accepting your emotions as they are without trying to change them. This includes self-compassion, self-love and acceptance. Here are three tips of how to give yourself emotional self-care.<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Put your hand on your heart and say to yourself \u201cmy love you deserve love and affection.<\/li>\n<li>Ask yourself <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wealthysinglemommy.com\/how-to-comfort-someone\/\">what you would say to a trusted friend who was struggling<\/a> with the same situation. Often we can find much more compassion for another person than we can for ourselves.<\/li>\n<li>Remind yourself on a daily basis that your feelings matter. This means all your feelings. In order to be a full vibrant person you need to allow all the rainbow of feelings you have (anger, sadness, grief, joy, love, excitement). The more you allow the deeper you love for yourself and your life.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-physical-self-care-tips\">Physical self-care tips<\/h3>\n<p>Physical self-care tips require you to connect and treat your body with the immense respect and love it deserves. Here are three tips on how to give yourself physical self-care<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Check in with your body. Wake up in the morning and while you are brushing your teeth ask your body how it feels and wait for the answer. Take a moment to hear beyond the first automatic response of \u201ctired\u201d or \u201coverwhelmed.\u201d Listen for physical descriptions of what your actual body feels like. For example, \u201cmy feet feel heavy\u201d or \u201cmy head feels stuffed with air.\u201d Just observing your body (and not even doing anything about it) is a loving gesture to your body.<\/li>\n<li>Rest is an essential self-care tool. We live in a world where we are told that being productive is the goal. But, we are mammals and we must rest in order to get the most out of our lives. We cannot skimp on rejuvenation or we will burnout. Our nervous systems need time to replenish their energy. How much time are you allowing for replenishing?<\/li>\n<li>Movement of any kind is an important physical self-care tool. Movement is required for our nervous systems to process and discharge the stress response from everyday experiences. We have a biological stress response system called the fight\/flight\/freeze response.\n<p>We need to allow for the nervous system energy of these powerful reactions to move through our body. Hence, the importance of movement. Movement doesn&#8217;t have to be exercise. It can be gardening, dancing to your favorite playlist (my go to), rotating your joints or belly laughing really hard.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-spiritual-self-care-tips\">Spiritual self-care tips<\/h3>\n<p>Spiritual self-care involves connecting to the experience that you are not in control of your environment and experience 100% of the time. You do not have to believe in another entity or have a religious affiliation, you simply have to trust that you are not in charge of everything! Here are three tips on how to give yourself spiritual self-care<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.wealthysinglemommy.com\/learn-to-meditate\/\">Meditation<\/a>. When we hear meditation we often think of a monk sitting on a mountain for days or months at a time in peace. But, actually, meditation is a much subtler form of presence. Meditation is a daily practice of noticing without judgment.\n<p>For example, the next time you are washing the dishes take a moment to notice what it feels like on your hands to be covered in soap or using a sponge. Really feel into the sensations of the water temperature, the smell of the dish soap and the texture of the dishes. Observing with a non-judgmental curious eye allows you to take your judgment, ego and opinion out of your experience. This is a practice that when done over time has a profound experience on your day-to-day perspective.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>Find your people. We are social beings. We evolved to connect to stay safe and multiply. No matter how much you have been hurt by others in the past, you need others to survive. The key is to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wealthysinglemommy.com\/friends-after-divorce\/\">find your people<\/a>, not the people you default to being with, but people you choose.\u00a0Read: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wealthysinglemommy.com\/apps-to-make-friends\/\">Apps for finding friends and meeting new people<br \/><\/a><br \/>Write a list of the top 3 things you want out of a friend and allow yourself to dream big. Think about what you need when you are struggling and the type of support you crave. Now start looking for friends like that and do not settle. You deserve the love and support you desire. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wealthysinglemommy.com\/spiritual-dating-sites\/\">8 best spiritual dating apps<\/a><\/li>\n<li>Control Exercise. We all like to think we have control over a lot of our life because it helps us feel safer, but really we only have control over our behavior. So, take out a piece of paper and write a line down the middle.<br \/>On the left side write a heading that says \u201cthings I cannot control\u201d and on the right side write \u201cThings I can control.\u201d Now getting writing.\n<p>Your kids&#8217; response to your ex when you drop them off: You cannot control. Making sure you get enough sleep and water throughout the day: You can control. Make this list every morning so you can set yourself up for success and begin to focus on what will actually move the dial in your life (taking care of you) and releasing what you cannot change (another person).<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>There are so many benefits to practicing self-care. By making these tools part of your daily routine you will be able to show up fully for yourself and others. Imagine if the next time you tackled a stressful activity you felt filled-up and cared for. You can make that happen by following these steps.<\/p>\n<div class=\"schema-faq wp-block-yoast-faq-block\">\n<div class=\"schema-faq-section\" id=\"faq-question-1632151579814\"><strong class=\"schema-faq-question\">What is self-care?<\/strong> <\/p>\n<p class=\"schema-faq-answer\">Self-care is self-protection. This means that engaging in behaviors that are kind and loving that require you to take care of yourself first protects you from pain and heartbreak.<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.wealthysinglemommy.com\/self-care-sunday\/\">Source link <\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Now, before you click out of this blog thinking you do not have time to take care of yourself try this: think of how you might respond if I told you this blog was about how to help or take care of someone else in your life. 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